Skip to main content

THINGS TO CONSIDER BEFORE THE MARRIAGE



It is not easy to plan for a marriage right? You need to do a lot of consultations. It is already given that before marriage we have to be prepared. That is why, we need months or even year/s of planning and it is not easy specially when we are working at the same time. The hardest part is the coordination, wherein we have to set appointments with the hotel or venue, church, transportation, flowers, food, etc. etc. . Hence, some couples choose to hire marriage planners or coordinators which is very helpful. Of course marriage coordinators will be an additional to our budget. For our part we did not hire coordinator instead we did all the plannings together. We did the plannings in less than a year and it was not easy for us because both of us were in Manila and our planned wedding was in Mindanao. But of course if there is a will there is a way.

I would like to share with you, our list when we were planning for our wedding.

  • How much budget we have; or at least how much we can have before the wedding?

1. Church/Solemnizing Officer

2. Venue

3. Food

4. Wedding dress/suit

5. Ring

Additional things that are also important

1. Photo and videos

2. Souvenir

3. Make-up

4. Transportation

5. Pre-nup/Post-nup

6. Buffer fund

7. Invitation cards

  • People that will be part in your wedding.

We also need to take into consideration the people who will be coming and participating in our wedding. For example from major sponsors, visitors, entourage that includes the veil and cord, candle, arrhae and ring, Bible, maid of honor, best man, etc.

Although we already have a budget in mind but we cannot be sure of the prices in our list unless we call or visit the place itself. For our part, we did online research first and made inquiries before coming to the place. Since our venue was in Mindanao we asked one of our relatives to do the site visit. For us it is very important to have a list, so we can trace the progress of our planning. Listing the needed things and materials will also help us to see if we are still within the budget limit. But of course we always need a buffer fund just in case there are some unavoidable circumstances.

Just a piece of advise if your are planning for your wedding already; do not cram. Better if you can ask the help of your trusted friends and relatives to help you by just asking some practical suggestions. Of course, at the end of the day, you will still be the one to decide- still your decision, however it is better to solicit opinion from others too. They might have better suggestions for food catering services, flower suppliers etc. But if you have the budget, then it is good to hire someone who can do the work for you.

Before I forget, please do some checking of things needed two days before the wedding day especially on the small details. Better if we can assign someone who will bring things just like the Bible, ring and some other stuff. Do not get stressed out during your big day.

If you have some questions please do not hesitate to contact me through my email address.

My advance congratulations to both of you.

Comments

Post a Comment

Popular posts from this blog

BASIC WEDDING PREPARATION

  H OW TO GET A SOLEMNIZING OFFICER? Ahead of your wedding day, you should already have a solemnizing officer and matters should have been discussed with him already like the ritual, vow, entourage of people who will be attending, date and venue, etc. Why? Because S.O. should know all these things since he will play a very important role in your wedding. But how to get one? A solemnizing officer is a person that will officiate your wedding. He was given authority by his both by his church and the law to officiate a wedding hence he is given a  CRASM or Certificate of Registration of Authority to Solemnize Marriage issued by Philippine Statistics Authority or PSA . So commonly Solemnizing Officers are church ministers, priests, pastors or imams. So you can ask the assistance of your church office in securing a solemnizing officer. Based on your religious affiliation. If you are both Roman Catholic, then your SO should be a Roman Catholic priest. If one of you is Roman Catholic and the
1 comment
Read more

WE WANT OUR WEDDING DONE IN OUR DESIRED VENUE

Solemnizing officer is a minister who will officiate your wedding. I mentioned those solemnizing officers who are allowed by law in the home page of this website. Solemnizing Officer can be religious leader, incumbent mayor, judge and in some circumstances ship captain or airplane chief are also allowed. But I would like to focus on the solemnizing officer we commonly see in different wedding venues like hotel, restaurant, garden, island, beach and other outdoor venues. Who are they? Are they judge, mayor or religious leaders? Most of them if not all are religious leaders especially Christian pastors and ministers. We should remember that by law religious leaders are advised to administer weddings inside their church/s. However, in some occasion couples or marriage applicants may request especial request that their wedding will be held at their desired venue. I will take our wedding as an example. My wife and I decided that our wedding venue will at the function hall of the hotel. It w
11 comments
Read more

Certificate for Registration of the Authority to Solemnize Marriage (CRASM)

Certificate for Registration of the Authority to Solemnize Marriage (CRASM) is being issued by the Philippine Statistics Authority (PSA) to the Solemnizing Officer. The said Certificate serves as their license to officiate weddings in the Philippines bound by Law- Family Code of the Philippines.  A solemnizing officer must not officiate any wedding if his CRASM has already expired, otherwise, the marriage maybe considered null and void unless otherwise declared by the Court as valid. But can you imagine all the hassles, time, and money being wasted? So might as well be sure first before the wedding.  It will be very important for any couple to ask, politely, of course, their officiant about his CRASM because he might have missed renewing it :) Why it is needed? If you will notice in your Marriage Contract the Certification number of SO's CRASM must appear and the Civil Registry where the wedding took place must have verified the Certification Number before forwarding the Marriage
Post a Comment
Read more